Maiba naman. Here’s a post I made for blogkadahan upon their request. They choose a differnt topic from time to time and I was happy to be asked to write about a great theme—sex! I thought I’d share it here, too. This is a re-edited version.
A Woman’s Sex
It has the original mouth but remains wordless;
It is surrounded by a magnificent mound of hair.
Sentient beings can get completely lost in it
But it is also the birthplace of all the Buddhas of the ten thousand worlds.
A poem by Ikkyu, a Japanese Zen Buddhist priest and poet:
‘Let’s talk about sex’, as the song by George Michael goes. Sure, why not? After all, one can’t escape it because it’s one of the primal urges we are born with. A male fetus gets a hard-on every 30 minutes. That media is so sexually charged is because they know we can’t resist the allure of sex.
Sex has got to be one of the biggest stories in most everyone’s life. Woody Allen likes to joke (with more than a grain of truth) that a man spends the first 9 months of life trying to get out of the womb and the rest of his life trying to get back in again! Ok, it is pretty big in mine. (Er…the story, that is). And not surprisingly, it carries with it all these conflicting feelings—pleasure and pain, affirmation and guilt, pride and shame, seriousness and comic laughter, holiness and profanity, etc. It is one of life’s great renewable resources. (You only have to rest a few minutes after and you want it again!). This crazy, paradoxical thing called sex makes the world go around. Everyone who was ever born has wondered, fantasized, and pined for it. It is definitely one of the big ticket items in this lotto game called life. You’re always hoping for the right combination.
And sex is the reason for its own pursuit. Certainly, it commands respect. It is smarter than many of the smartest people I know. I’ve seen people jeopardize relationships, health, money, future just for sex. I’ve also seen people’s lives enhanced when they awakened to their sexuality. Every flirtatious glance promises an invitation, a promise that is hard to resist. If you have not tried it, let me tell you that it is more wonderful and infinitely better than a new pair of shoes, white bread, a new car, an i-pod and having million dollars.
Overrated, you say? well, yes and no!. Read on.
There is a lot to what Freud said about sex being the great raison’d’etre for everything we do. He implies that, say, the reason a young man grooms himself, becomes an athlete, tries to do well in school and everything else is to make himself more attractive to those he desires to engage in horizontal activities with. And I am not talking about wrestling or sleeping either. Why does a man want to get rich, get a high position, own a lot of goodies? Isn’t it because he becomes more attractive to women? Who was it who said that the greatest aphrodisiac for women is a Mercedes Benz? And what’s the whole make-up and fashion industry all about? Even for its owners who make oodles, it’s not really all about money. You can’t make love to a dollar bill, but it can buy you sex. (Ok, maybe a hundred dollars!).
Speaking of make-up, an anthropologist writer who wrote The Naked Ape says that wearing lipstick is an unconscious attempt to reproduce what a vagina in heat looks like, and it comes from our primate past when we were still walking on fours. Whoa, that is wild!! But I can’t help but see the connection.
Scientists suggest females in all mammalian species desire males who can support their offspring and so look for powerful, strong alpha males to impregnate them. Generally, women are more faithful than men (perhaps in exchange for security) since their goal is to find males who can protect and assure survival of their offspring. Males on the other hand want as many offspring as possible. Males spew out 6 million sperm cells every time while women only release 1 egg. Men have sex to assure progeny. Women have sex for security.
I am putting it crassly. This is sex on the basic level. Surely, sex is more than this, you might say. Of course you are right!
Which brings me to say that Freud’s observations only go so far. I think the reason why sex is so attractive goes beyond reproduction and ensuring the continuation of the species. It is, to put it simply, a great thing to engage in. Why? Because it is so—elastic! It can be a little experience not worthy of comment or it can be THE best, most memorable event. (Even when it is just so-so, say, like in a solitary activity, it is still good). Like many people, I have enjoyed it on different levels–from the earthy, sensual, purely physical up to the ecstatically divine, and heavenly.
When it is with The Right One at The Right Moment, it’s an out-of-this world experience and its intense, sensual pleasure can touch the very core of who we are. And the identity of who we are which unravels when we surrender to that awesome pleasure vortex of sex as we let it take over us completely, is nothing short of divine. Kosmic! We melt as separate human beings and awaken even if just momentarily as the very Universe itself. Yes, Orgasm is the Big Bang recreated! As millions of sperm are released when a man comes, so do millions, billions of stars burst out in empty space– a supernova coming to life. (Imagine Carl Sagan having sex! Millions and billions of stars. ha ha).
Is it any surprise then to read a lot of spiritual, mystical writings of saints and monks that have sexual overtones? A medieval nun’s journal I read (I can’t recall who) used to pray to God to ‘break me with your battering ram!’ And aren’t nuns vows vows akin to being ‘married to Jesus’? In Tantric sex, each assumes that the love object is a god or goddess. And Tantric deities like to consort for hours! Sex indeed can be a stairway to heaven. The metaphors are, to my mind, quite telling. There are many more examples of this. The writer M. Scott Peck, after observing the sexual-spiritual connection posits that the spiritual among us ‘must be horny’, and then curiously asks, ‘but are the horny spiritual?’
An intriguing question, and my answer to that is, like Peck, a ‘yes’. Sex, and yes all other activities that are potentially addictive are tastes of heaven. But just like Icarus who flew too close to the sun which melted his wings and killed him, these potent gifts are only good for us in moderation. Alas, too much heaven, contrary to belief can be toxic. And mindless, unconscious , meaningless sex can kill its very appeal and attraction by making its endless mystery a profanity.
Sex, where one is consciously awake, alive and present to its great mystery and the loving exchange taking place is infinitely better than sex for physical release alone. (For that, you don’t need a Significant Other, just any body will do. Gamitan lang talaga!). Where the first engages in intercourse with ALL of the universe till there is nothing else but ecstasy, the latter is simply the rubbing of skin to relieve an itch!
The word ‘orgasm’ in French is ‘le petit mort’, which literally means ‘a little death’. We ‘die’ into the experience by surrendering to the shuddering pleasure of an orgasm. We forget we are living in the mundane world as we taste heaven.
As I mentioned earlier, you may dismiss all this as ‘overrated’ and you may be right. Actually, everyone is right whatever his/her opinion. Like I said, sex is indeed elastic. Everyone is an individual when it comes to sex. Kanya-kanyang kiliti! And often, a person’s experience of it says a lot about who he/she is than what sex is.
But the long and short of it is (hmmm…) we do need both the crass and the sublime. Or more accurately, we need the crass to get to the sublime. We all do what we must do in this life—get a job, make money, get famous, acquire prestige or power, go to Vicky Bello to have greater access to it. Some may even lie, cheat or buy it. Sabi nga ni John Lennon, ‘whatever gets you through the night..’ And all that may get you inside the building. But with greater and greater consciousness each time you do it, you may go higher and higher until you get to the penthouse. And it gets even higher.
So tell me, have you been to heaven lately?
Sex for me is tantamount to a gourmet cooking. You need to take the time to think about it. Get to know your ingredients: shop for it, check it out, smell and feel it. It must take time and with a good and clear mind and the right temperature. So, from foreplay to climax it takes at least 45 mins-
1 hr orgasm for me. It is a-must. Anything less than that is a shuddy, just-get-over-with, bang-up job.
When done right (esp without the rush and guilt) it truly is a delectable and transcendental experience. Yes, it’s the closest to heaven one can get. It’s also a get stress reliever for me.
Sadly, I don’t get a lot of it. But, then again it’s not the quantity that matters. It’s the quality that truly matters.
I am sure many men will disagree with the latter. ;p
mea culpa: shoddy not shuddy.
Name witheld—“But, then again it’s not the quantity that matters. It’s the quality that truly matters.
I am sure many men will disagree with the latter.” Ha ha. A comment all men should read. And your metaphor of gourmet cooking is delicious.
Jim,
What a topic. I like the challenge. He-he. It’s very interesting but a complicated one. I read somewhere that sex is God’s joke to men. You go through life and sex means so many things. From your first hard-on, to your first kiss and F*** and now in my mids I don’t get enough of it. My wife does not even talk to me let alone touch her. We’re worst than roommates–at least roommates talk. And to sin is not my thing, (unless of course if your last name is Jolie) affairs or whores–I’m tired of going through the rituals and bear the consequences. So sex to me at the moment is a date with Mariang Palad. It’s cheap. It’s controlled. A little guilt here and there but really, it’s zero emotions involved. It’s also portable, no batteries needed. A little imagination gets you far. Ha-ha. But the other news is I’ll be single again soon and will move to my own “pad.” The move is a mix feeling. For once I’ll be free and liberated from the black hole. It will be interesting what sex will mean for the next chapter of my life.
(Great blog.)
Speaking of Sex, Rex Navarette (a Fil-Am standup comedian) said that he is celibate and abstains. Quote “I celibate when a see a sexy woman. If you visit my bedroom, you will see that I abstain. I abstain on the sheets, on the ceiling and on the floor.”
Since it appears you know something or many things about sex, can you give me an advice on my present predicament. I have “hypertension” (high blood pressure). My doctor gave me medicines with the caution and advice that “If I take the medicines, I will be alive, but “it” will be dead. If do not take the prescribed medicines, “it” will be alive, but I may be dead. I am still alive, if you know what I mean. And the funny side about the priest being “celibate”, the “first priests of yonder” were actually hard on hearing. The one up above have said “celebrate”, not celibate. Poor priests, they really missed something, or should I say “so many things”. By the way, you know me but ask Ala who am I.
We are so honored and appreciative of your contribution to our blog. The time and effort you have given it. May it not be the first nor the last.
Thank you very much Mr. Paredes. Our gratitude.
g
At first glance (maybe because I refuse to wear my glasses) I thought the picture was that of Shiva. And I wonder, what has Shiva got to do with sex. But then, come to think of it, with all those hands, he might as well be. hehehe The ultimate titillater, I suppose. ( I would have said titillator but dictionary.com says there’s no such word. I’m glad I checked it out)
Again, thanks for honoring us with your presence in our blog.
ohh…the comments here are so interesting and stimulating too…
i gotta be back for some more comment reading..and for mr.s..
a quote to laugh about:
“My wife is a sex object – every time I ask for sex, she objects.”
Salamat Jim for the entry and for the link,too. 🙂
A lot of domo arigato from sachiko
Mr.S–My classmate put it quite well when he said that he and his wife have sex many times a day all over the house. Everytime they encounter each other, they both look at each other and say ‘f*** you”. ha ha. Do tell us what being single again at mid-life is all about whenh you get there.
makatang sampay-bakod–That’s quite a dilemna. Either buhay ka pero bitin o patay ka pero masaya! ha ha. Either celibate and live or celebrate and risk death. Hey, kilala kita!!
anonymous–I love Rex Navarete. We performed with hoim in LA. Really funny guy.
cerridwen, rolly, sachiko– Salamat din. Enjoy ako magsulat ng topic na ito.
I’m anonymous this time – wanting to be playful with your inquisition… to tell you -YESSS! haha I was in heaven right about the time you posted this blog! talk about being in the zone… and guess what – I said a prayer for you at the time that you yourself in your unselfishness and simple truthfulness continue to experience this blissful gift that’s beyond all physical senses and understanding.
Dying a little death – my love speaks the same – and I share this understanding with him. For me, during the big bang (not all the time mind you, but always a bang) I am left with no choice but surrender to The Creator – after such glory, from my lips come “I’m ready to die now” – with a taste of heaven – who wouldn’t want to leave this earth. But then more heavens open cos he has not reached his – yesss again! haha
We sometimes ponder why people say “Life begins at 40.”
At 40, men start to lose hair and that male virility. Women in turn become fatter, wrinklier and saggier. If “life begins at 40” why the ugly metamorphosis?
The simple answer: to stop us from having anymore sex! As we get uglier, sex becomes less appealing and so is our partner.
But here is the twist. The more we lose interest in sex, the more we become productive human beings. We start to find that, hey, we have more time in our hands. Because we don’t have to think about sex 99.5% of the time, we find ourselves thinking and contemplating about the finer things in life. As a result, we become more creative, imaginative and achieving.
In conclusion, to become the best you can be, you must stop having sex!! SEX IS THE CURSE OF YOUTH.
Ano sa palagay mo, Tito Jim? 🙂
-JT of Dural
P.S. To Tito Makatang Sampay-Bakod, as soon as you take those blood pressure meds, TWICE A YEAR na lang babangon si Manoy. And you will be GRATEFUL for it, trust me!! 😀
I beg to differ with JT of Dural.Life begins at 40 because sex is fantastic at 40!There are no more worries about contraceptive pills and small children
I always feel young because I die a little everyday since I reached 40, ha!ha!
Going to heaven now, ciao
I think JT Dural’s opinion is subjective. But, generally speaking, women start to really ‘heat up’ at age 35 until 50 while men’s sexual urges begin to decrease. Well, their sexual urges start early, too. Not fair or cogent, is it?
That’s why younger men, generally, prefer older women like Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore. This reminds me, people say they remind me of Demi. Im not quite sure if it’s a compliment or a crude comment.
I personally prefer older and more experienced men. 😉
But, I need that emotional, sentient bond or attachment. No ‘one-night-stand’ for me.
It’s really the best with one’s True Love. Gasp
That’s just another woman speaking with her heart on her sleeve!
Yes, 40 and hot and no stairway to heaven in sight. Aaarghhhh
sex without thinking is the best but the hardest to do… yes, just came back from heaven ;p
you should offer a class on this. hahaha!
(when your guitar pupils get older! ;p
Hi Jim,
Sex is the greatest mystery in humanity. I sensed humanity is desensitized from the real essence of sex. Experiencing the highest feeling of ectasy in sex is a life long process.
May kasabihan nga tayo na “Try and try until you succeed.”
Salamat!
Oh my, I feel so envious when people write here that they just came from heaven.
I guess I am proverbially stuck in ‘purgatory’, coz I get no action? Aray ko po. I need a good fix,ASAP. hah-ha
was that your psycho paper? just kidding! Very intelligent discourse to a topic that’s been treated like crap sometimes.
Very meaningful activity with a partner that you love and trust and gives you the same back. But hey, as you mature hehehe there’s more to life than sex ika nga. WE also have different human needs that need attention and have to be catered for. ‘gidday from brissie
jim, would that i WERE your anonymous commenters! the incognito status frees their pens, as it were…
but i’ll be forthright with you, mr paredes =) i did come from heaven at about the same time your post was being published by sachiko… hence, a rather inspired post that followed yours LOL
st john of the cross spoke of having a “night of the soul” in his spiritual journey… and although he wrote those lines within a completely different context, what struck me most in that line is its connection to your “petit mort” translation of orgasm. i suppose from a woman’s point of view, the little death happens many times over, but is most potently felt in the surrendering that is part of our role in the love act. a woman has to surrender herself completely in a physical way if she is to get the absolute heavenly bliss of lovemaking. she has to open her body to her partner, nothing held back. in that action alone, you die a thousand deaths. if she holds back even one iota, she misses heaven by an inch, and in this case, a near-miss is still a miss.
a woman would pass through a “night of the soul” in this act, even if she may tell herself that sex without thinking is possible. luce irigaray speaks of the vagina as the beginning point of woman, for it is there that she is most woman, from those lips that speak of her unique identity. it is those very same lips that are the gate to her interiority, the very gate that must die a thousand deaths, from her surrender, to the constant piercing brought on by coitus… and where, even if there were no coitus, a host of strong sensations come alive when she climaxes.
i really wish i had been your anonymous commenter, if only to keep me in your esteem =)
thank you for a wonderful post. now i think i want to do your post title in A minor… “there’s a lady who’s sure all that glitters is gold and she’s buying a stairway to heaven…”
jim,
what’s your take on
spayed and neutered pets?
best regards,
i_am_mirror_man at yahoo
re. above
contraceptives and paraphernalia?
anonymous-Said like someone who just came from heaven. Thanks for the little prayer. It must have been heard since you were in heaven when you said it.
JT of dural–While it is true that we lose the vitality of youth past 40, it does not mean we have to lose it all. While the ‘angle of the dangle’ may have changed, we learn to use other parts of our being to make love–our minds, our feelings, our total personalities more than we did before. Thus, it can be more intense in a way.
Yes, it is also true that we actually get more interested in other things and thus take a rest from our sexual obssession when we were younger.
name withheld–So true, woman peak at a later age than men. A favorite auntie told me that the more a woman gets older, the raunchier the sex she enjoys.
doranne-yes, no thinking. As we say in TCU–just do it but pay attention.
bass poet–Try and try until you succeed. Good advice. But sometimes. trying too hard spoils it. How about this–try to not try so you will succeed! heh heh.
anonymous–Life is like that. Sometimes it’s lush, at other times it’s like a desert.
svelte roque– Love your post. You were spot on. I hold you in higher esteem because you put it so honestly. Yes,completely vulnerability is the key to heaven.
vicky–yup. I’m gonna take iup fishing.
anonymous–I have not given that much thought.I am not a pet person kasi. But I guess it’s a good idea if you don’t want too many of them around.
“A male fetus gets a hard-on every 30 minutes even while still inside the womb.”
is that the reason why you can feel the baby kick inside the mommy’s tummy?
thanks for the post boss jim – i loved your freudian explanation, as well as the anthropology and science behind the reason why women wear red lipstick.
i’ve read about a similar explanation why men love big breasts.
apparently, big breasts reminds us men of a woman’s butt – which, when having sex, is the main point of entry of an animal (our early ancestors perhaps) who walks on all fours.
Hi Jim, another great post!
Could you share with us any comments you might have on Tantra?
Have you read Mantak Chia, and if so what do you think? If you haven’t let us know, I could lend you my copy 🙂
so jim, are you going to run the TCU in Manila in August?
sex with the one you love is sweeter than sugar.
nice blogsite!
please come and visit my blogsite:
http://www.shashavica.blogspot.com
all the best!
Many think that sterilization of pets is cruel (castration, spaying, etc.) Denying them a piece of “heaven” ba? and the gift of motherhood. It depends on how you value animals vs… Impractical alternative suggestions =) (ika nga what they don’t know won’t hurt them) but those methods are indeed more humane (releasing rather than suppressing)
http://www.acc-d.org
The Alliance for Contraception
in Cats and Dogs
Question to Anonymous — who provided link to http://www.acc-d.org and spayed and neutered pets.
Nice, but I am bewildered by how your mind connects the dots. How does the above subject matter(Alliance of contraception of cats and dogs) relate to human sexuality, specifically women’s sexuality? I am a woman, and I feel slighted by your juxtaposition.
So, cats and dog get neutered. Have you heard that women get ligated and men get vasectomy for pragmatic and economic reasons, too? Does that rub us of sensuality and desire, of course not!
I honestly don’t know of anyone who could tell us how cats and dogs feel about being rub of their ‘gift of motherhood’.
But, I can honestly say this: millions of poor people, esp poor children don’t eat 3 full meals a day, and that concerns me more than how cats and dogs feel about being neutered and spayed. Most of these pets get better and humane treatment, esp in the rich countries.
Switch back to the main topic, please. It’s just downright bizzare interjection here that’s way out of course.
Apologies if my above reply to you, Anonymous sounds harsh. Your entry somehow just pushed the wrong buttons for me.
I guess crazy makers come through in different forms and sources. No pun intended. ;p
re:
robbed of motherhood,
still on sex and heaven topic
agree ako kay gabriela.
i think of africa
whenever i see people pampering
their pets. but more on the morbid
side: substitute poodles for noodles.
[sorry off-topic]
vasectomy is not the same as
having your balls cut off.
not sure if spayed things get horny.
to answer your parting question: i’ve experienced heaven in a thousand other ways 0;p
Gabriela,
No harm done. I apologize, too :). Crazy colleagues I have here. That wasn’t a personal post.
Jim,
Thank you for answering my question even if the “connect-the-dots” went from page 1 to another book. Wrong group. Farewell and good luck!
Anonymous, I hope I did not embarrass you. I am sorry. Look I even wrote rub vs. rob – I can be quite a careless writer.
Cheers and best to you. Ignore the bwisit colleagues.
Nasaan na po si kuya Buboy?
Dear Jim,
The French language actually has an exact equivalent for the word “orgasm.” It’s the French word “orgasme.”
The phrase “le petit mort” is just a literary expression that is used sometimes when talking about the experience, but ordinary Frenchmen would normally just say “orgasme.”
Your fan,
José Rizal II
OMG!!!!! It’s so, so, so refreshing to know that you have ‘libog’ too, kasi naman your image as apo jim has always been squeaky clean. hahaha!
sa atin sa philippines, sex is such a taboo topic. kaya tuloy dati, whenever we went “to heaven”, (as you put it), there was always that tiniest bit of guilt or repression; not at all good for us and our partner.
my significant other and I took ourselves to heaven after reading your post -and believe me – we saw heaven… and fireworks! Big! Beautiful! Mind-blowing fireworks!!!
Thank you for the inspiration.
WOW, nothing like sex to get minds going, huh, Jim!!
Rosanne
Oh No! Sistah-in-law got ya!
hah-ha. ;0
This topic is hot!! Rosanne, your’e right. Nothing like sex to keep it going! ha ha.
To all those who wrote so far, salamat.
anonymous–believe me, EVERYONE has libog. Carl Jung says everyone has a shadow. Like a statue at midday, the greater the man the bigger the shadow. Sex is shadow energy in our society that when brought to the light is controversial but exciting!
you are a good writer. I hope you have a regular column on a leading newspaper in the philippines.
I guess it is very hard to be a highly sexual female in the Philippines since there are so many “rules” that dictate how a woman should act sexually. It is very limiting and highly unfair considering the shenanigans that Pinoy men can get up to without society frowning upon them.
For me, thank God that I moved to Oz and I have been in “heaven” for the past 6 years with the same man! I just can’t imagine having the same experience back in Manila without being labelled a slut.
Excellent post, Apo Jim 🙂
jennie,
YOu’d be surprised what women can get away with these days in manila. People are actually quite tolerant. At least in my own experience, I don’t hear too many condemning voices around the way I did when I waqs growing up. Once in a while, you’ll get the conservative church groups condeming this and that, but even that is getting rare. Media is quite racy. Talk shows discuss practically all things sexual. The censors are still there giving warnings etc, but nothing’s really big deal anymore siguro except for sex crimes like rape, etc..
Apo Jim,
In your opinion, do you think it’s a good thing or a bad thing that women can freely express themselves sexually nowadays? Filipino society just seems a tad bit hypocritical when it comes to sex. As you said, the media is quite racy and yet when some artista gets involved in a “sordid affair” they’re all over it and will be the first ones to condemn said artista. I don’t know, it’s been years since I’ve gone back home so that might have changed heaps.
I’m only 28 and when I was in high school, people are still pretty judgemental and conservative about certain things, like not being able to have sex till you’re in a committed relationship, no public display of affection, or not being able to have a boyfriend till you get to a certain age. The world has changed dramatically in a span of a decade.
Personally, I believe in expression. But I also believe in appropriateness. Men and women are sexual beings, but since sex is so powerful, it’s best to know how to be in control of it. I always say that it’s like a horse. If you can’t control it, it will take you where it wants to go and while there’s a thrill in that, it could be disastrous. If you’re not in control, you can be a victim.
Media EVERYWHERE love to make much ado about celebs sex life. Compared to just 10 years ago, Filipinos back home seem far more tolerant and less judgmental now. Sure, there will be little minds who live on gossip and chismis and holier-than-thou attitudes as everywhere else. But it.s gone a long way, baby!
Jim,
Back before organised religion had thrown a dark shadow over the whole topic of sexuality, many pagan belief systems, because the fundamental source of celebration is nature, regarded sex far more maturely and with so much respect and awe than we do today.
That is why ancient belief frameworks like those practiced by the Hindus and also many tribes isolated from modern influence have rituals, traditions and beliefs that are intimately intertwined with sexuality but are disturbing when viewed from our modern perspective — a perspective severely coloured by Judeo-Christian-Islamic influence.
The stigmatisation of sexuality and the use of women as a scapegoat for male indiscretion (from which this whole attitude of covering up women and subjugating them arose) was a fabrication perpetuated by religious organisations made up predominantly of males who struggled daily with their grossly unnatural vow of chastity.
It is not surprising that very few actually lived up to this vow (specially when even masturbation was not tolerated) and therefore, they had to progressively come up with a whole convoluted belief framework that at its core pinned the root of sexual “indiscretion” on temptation offered by the “filthy” sight of “immodest” women.
Such is the damage to our regard for what is really a very natural biological process wrought by organised religion.
The Philippines, being a backward society, is a clear example of our failed struggle to come to terms with our Catholic faith and the forces of secularity that comes with modernisation. Filipino men are known — and even celebrated — for their wanton indiscretion (in fact we once elected no less than a President who was himself a caricature of this trait). Yet you will see Pinoy men and their tolerant wives by the hundreds kneeling in Catholic stupor every Sunday.
By the way, I have finished and released to the public domain my first Book (which also touches briefly, but deeply on the subject of Pinoy male sexuality). You can download it for FREE here:
GetRealPhilippines.COM/Book1
Anyways, that was a nice and very mature expose on human sexuality!
Jim,
Talking about sex, there was a time when we used to laugh at DOMs–as they say, “what goes around, comes around.” This is a pinoy song about it:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dgnCt49mAY4
Hi Benign0,
Of the three Abrahamic Religions (Judaism, Christianity, and Islam), Christianity – esp. Catholicism – is the most “anti-Sex” of them all.
Naturally, religions would have a clear bias for “sex-within-marriage.” That’s natural for any religion, I’d say.
But when carefully viewing Judaism and Islam from the inside – within the context of marriage – both actually celebrate Sex as a “good thing.”
Rabbis and Imams, in fact, have a higher “credibility rating” and enjoy a higher prestige level if they are married. There is, in fact, a bias for married religious leaders in both religions.
But yes, you’re right, certain non-Abrahamic religions do have a very “Sex is Good” stance. I just wanted to clarify that both Judaism and Islam both have such a stance – except that they’re so conscious about emphasizing that it should be within the confines of marriage.
Vaya con Diós,
José Rizal II
Hi Jim
Must be busy preparing for the Sydney concert and I wish that I could go but hubby’s bday is on the 3rd and we can’t get away. BUT shall be awaiting your Brisbane Concert. In the meantime Billy Joel will do- he’s here in November.
BTW have you recorded any of yur concerts on DVD? And if so where do we buy them in Aus?
My friend in Toronto really enjoyed yur concert there last time she even brought along her daughter who enjoyed it even though she can’t understand Tagalog
Ray, my son just arrived from Sydney. Some of his pictures of Sydney are on my site you are most welcome to browse.
Now- going back to S*x- i think i’ve said my comment before.
All the best for your concert.
It must be a joke because it’s just too darned pathetic to be true.
Buddy Lopa (former anchorman for RPN9) once related a story about a man who had an inverted penis — which is like an inverted nipple.
You can imagine the predicament he has whenever he gets a hard on and gets the urge to relieve himself manually.
He must be the only man who has to poke himself to get off.
I enjoyed your post..So Entertaining.. You’re a genius!
Just crossed my mind.. Maybe you can shed light on this… Pretty please…..
I am already married for a year now. I should say that we both reach the “heaven” at least 4 times a week.. However, there still an urge in me to do “Mariang Palad” once in a while. It bothers me sometimes.. Coz I dont know if that was normal… Was there a moment in your life that you have experience that?
To Anonymous,
That is normal, but stay away from the internet and say three “Our Fathers” everytime you feel the urge. 🙂
Kidding aside, just pour all your energy on your better mate. It does not last long. Don’t wait till she starts having babies and your going to be left in the dust with Mariang Palad.
my comment is really of the topic but i just want everyone to know….the APO concert in sydney was so galing WOW WOW WOW WOW is all I can say. My daughter enjoyed it so much. she now has stars in her eyes when talking about you tito Jim.
Whenever APO is in town guys,watch it! I have not laughed that hard in years!!!! The way the three of you sing is incredible! It’s no wonder the three of you are legends!
Thanks for playing my all time fave APO song..’When I Met You’..haaaaay,memories of my love..sniff sniff.
Congratulations, Tito Jim,Danny and Buboy!!!!!
what a topic! what a post! substantial. profound. nice.
“But, then again it’s not the quantity that matters. It’s the quality that truly matters.” — i agree with this. for if the quantity’s always the case, well as a Filipino saying states: “kahit posteng may palada, papatulan na.”
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